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The Comparison Game

Unfortunately one of the things I instinctively do when I walk into a room is to stack rank myself. I start trying to figure out the hierarchy of the people so I know my place and what’s expected of me. I once worked for a company whose culture was built on comparison. They pitted employee against employee, store against store, district against district and region against region. It may have been good for sales, but not for relationships. We were constantly looking down on others, talking trash and looking for ways to beat them. They preached unity from the top, but in the trenches is was every person for themselves. There were always reports going out with stack ranking. How you compared with others was clearly show. In black and white every day.

In the Early Church, there was a similar problem. People were comparing themselves to other Christians and churches compared themselves against other churches. It mattered who baptized you or who led you to Jesus in their eyes. When Paul got wind of it, he tried to put a stop to it. In 1 Corinthians 3:4 he addressed them, “When one of you says, ‘I am a follower of Paul,’ and another says, ‘I follow Apollos,’ aren’t you acting just like people of the world?” (NLT) He reminded them that he and Apollos were just men. To compare themselves to each other by who they followed was foolish because they were just people. It’s Jesus that we should be following.

In order to set them straight, a few verses later he wrote, “The one who plants and the one who waters work together with the same purpose. And both will be rewarded for their own hard work.” We’re not in competition with one another. We’re co-laborers, not competitors. Yet we find ourselves in the same battles today that the Early Church did. We think our denomination is better than yours. Our pastor is better. I’m better. It’s all comparison against a people who are merely servants of God. When we compare ourselves against Him, it’s obvious we fall short. That’s why we go against others. It’s time we quit the comparison game and started working together as one body. Paul reminded us here that while we have different roles, it’s ultimately God who blesses our work and causes seeds to grow giving a harvest.

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Quit Comparing Yourself


My son thinks somehow age and height are related. When he sees someone tall, he thinks they must be really old. No matter how many times we’ve tried to explain it to him and show him, he still doesn’t want to change his thinking. What he’s doing is comparing his age with kids younger than him and also against adults. It might work some if the time, but what I’ve tried to explain to him is that just because it works some of the time, you can’t apply it to everything. Comparing ourselves to others usually ends up creating these inequalities in our minds. 

Since we were kids, we have been comparing ourselves to other people. Parents sometimes ask their kids, “Why can’t you be more like so and so?” It creates a dangerous line of thinking that makes us constantly co pare ourselves against people we have no business comparing ourselves with. What if we compared our singing ability to Frank Sinatra? Or our Christlikeness against Billy Graham? Or our intellectual abilities against Einstein? How would that leave you feeling?

Einstein is often given credit for saying, “Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” God gave you unique abilities and talents. You aren’t supposed to compare what He’s given you you do versus what He’s given someone else to do. Nothing good comes from that. Yet, as Christians, we do it all the time. We can’t pray as well as that person, or live as holy as the other, or do work for God’s kingdom like them. We’ll never be able to fulfill what God made us for if we do that. 

James 6:4-5 says, “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life” (MSG). It’s time each of us reflects on the skills, talent, and work God has called us to, then put our efforts there. Comparisons keep us from our calling, and cause us to fall short of our potential creating insecurity. Live the life God called YOU to, not the one He called someone else to. 

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