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Feedback And Correction

One of the things I have to remind myself and others is that feedback and correction are gifts. In one of my previous jobs, after I had completed an assignment, I had to stand in front of my peers to receive feedback and correction. They would say what I did well, what I didn’t do well and what I should do differently next time. Some who stood up there were thankful for it and incorporated the feedback and correction. There were others though who tried to defend what their intentions were or why they chose to do it a certain way. Some would even attack the person trying to help them. How we receive feedback and correction says a lot about who we are.

In 2 Samuel 12, David had sinned by having an affair and then having her husband killed. He thought he had gotten away with it, but God saw what he had done. The prophet Nathan was sent to David to confront his sin. He told him the story of a poor man who had his lamb stolen by a rich man, who killed the lamb and served it to a friend. David screamed out that anyone who could do such a thing should be put to death. Nathan looked at him and said, “You are that man!” Instead of denying, defending or attacking, David admitted his sin and sought forgiveness. He accepted the feedback and correction which allowed him to remain king. He asked God to create a clean heart in him and to renew a right spirit within him.

Proverbs 25:12 says, “When you humbly receive wise correction, it adorns your life with beauty and makes you a better person” (TPT). How well do you receive feedback and correction? God uses people to confront our sin, shortcomings and areas that need improvement. Do you reject what they say, defend your intentions or attack them? David, as king, could have easily put Nathan in jail or killed him. Instead, he received the correction and became a better person and king. By the way, the one who wrote this proverb was not only David’s son, his mother was the one whom David had the affair with. God not only redeemed David after his son, He birthed a kingly succession out of his greatest sin. When we receive Godly feedback and correction, God can redeem whatever He’s pointing out.

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Critic’s Math

Several years ago I attended a conference for ministers. One of the speakers was Jon Acuff, and he spoke on critic’s math. The way critics math works is 1 insult + 1,000 complements = 1 insult. We can be praised by everyone for our work, but if one person didn’t like it, we allow that one negative comment to erase all the positive feedback we’ve received. It can be like we never even heard the compliments because our mind spends all its time focusing on the one negative comment rather than our feedback as a whole. Critic’s math is a dangerous thing for us to fall into.

An example is in the Book of Esther. Haman was the King’s prime minister. He had been put in such a high position, that the king declared everyone should bow to him as he passed by. Everyone bowed down except one. Mordecai refused. In the fifth chapter, Esther had prepared a banquet for he and the king. When he left, everyone bowed except Mordecai. In verses 12-13, he told his wife and friends, “What is more, Queen Esther gave a banquet for no one but the king and me, and we are invited back tomorrow. But none of this means a thing to me as long as I see that Jew Mordecai sitting at the entrance of the palace” (GNT). He allowed critic’s math to cloud his thinking, and it ultimately cost him everything.

You and I need to accept that we can’t please everyone, and that pleasing people is not our goal. Pleasing God is. Ecclesiastes 7:21 warns, “Don’t pay attention to everything people say…” When you receive negative feedback, take it constructively, but don’t give it so much weight that it distracts you from what God has called you to. What He has to say is far more important than what any person has to say. Keep focusing on what God wants to do in your life and through you, and don’t let one person’s negativity keep you from reaching your potential or from finishing your race.

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Throwback Thursday is a feature I’m using to help build some margin into my schedule to pursue other ventures. Each Thursday I’ll be bringing you a previously written devotional that still speaks encouragement to us from God’s Word.

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