Tag Archives: valentines devotion

Love Takes Risks

One of my favorite love stories in the Bible has to be Ruth and Boaz. When Ruth’s husband died, she left her home and family to stay with her mother in law. She accompanied her back to the land of her people with the famous phrase, “Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people and your God will be my God.” When they arrived, Ruth immediately went out to look for a field of grain to work in so they could eat. God led her straight to a field that belonged to Boaz.

In their story, Ruth immediately caught the attention of Boaz. He was impressed with her faithfulness to Naomi. Because of that, he showed her kindness and compassion. He allowed her to stay in the field and to become like one of the women workers. He gave her food to eat and spoke to the other workers to drop grain for her to pick up. Here, Boaz demonstrated that love is kind and seeks what’s best for the other person. He also gave us the example that love provides for the other person’s needs.

In Ruth chapter 3, Naomi instructs Ruth to go lay at the feet of Boaz while he slept. When he woke up around midnight, he was surprised to see a woman laying at his feet. She replied, “I am your servant Ruth. Spread your covering over me, for you are my kinsman redeemer.” His response showed his love. “I will do what is necessary,” he said. Love does what is necessary, not what is expedient. He could have claimed her as his wife or taken advantage of the situation. Instead, he protected her virtue, did what was right and necessary. He showed that love does not act unbecomingly.

The next morning, Boaz went out to the city gate to look for the real kinsman redeemer. When he came through Boaz approached him and told him the situation. The other man said he couldn’t marry Ruth so he gave permission to Boaz. Here Boaz showed that love risks everything. He was willing to let go of Ruth because it was the right thing to do. In releasing her, he opened his hand for God to bless him back. He did what was right in the sight of God and man and acted with integrity. He showed that love doesn’t trap someone, it frees them.

If you are not familiar with their story, Boaz and Ruth got married. They had a son named Obed. When he grew up and married, he had a son named Jesse who had a several sons, one of whom was a shepherd named David. David became the greatest king of Israel. Several generations later, one of his defendants married a woman named Mary who gave birth to a son named Jesus. Because Boaz acted out of love and integrity and risked everything, he became part of the lineage of Christ.

2 Comments

Filed under Uncategorized

Love Takes Work

When people tell me that they’re getting married or thinking about it, I tell them two things. The first is that marriage is a magnifier. All the great things about the love of your life will be magnified and will be that much better. On the other hand, all the things that drive you nuts will be magnified as well. The second thing I tell them is that marriage is the hardest thing you will ever do. It’s a lifetime of putting someone else’s needs above your own. To be successful, you’ll need to put away your all about me attitude (which is all you’ve known) and put your energy and effort into all about us.

Love requires work. Hard work. When I think about someone working hard for love, I think about Jacob in Genesis 29. His dad wanted him to travel back to the land of his ancestors to find a wife. Upon arriving, he met Rachel at a well. He told her his story and she ran to tell her dad Laban. After working for her dad for a month, Laban said, “You shouldn’t work for me without pay just because we are relatives. Tell me how much your wages should be.” In verse 18, Jacob replied, “I’ll work for you for seven years if you’ll give me Rachel , your younger daughter, as my wife.”

After they agreed, Jacob worked seven years for her. The Bible says that his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days. On their wedding night, Laban swapped daughters on Jacob and gave him Leah to consummate the marriage with. It wasn’t until the morning that Jacob realized it. When he protested, Laban told him that their custom was that the older daughter needed to be married first. He then said, “But wait until the bridal week is over; then we’ll give you Rachel too – provided you promise to work another seven years for me.” He married Rachel a week later and worked another seven years.

To put that into perspective, think about what you make per year and multiply that be seven. Now double that number and you have what Jacob was willing to pay for Rachel. That’s a lot of work and a lot of money. Jacob was willing to put in the time and effort because of his love for her. The first seven years flew by as he anticipated marriage. The Bible doesn’t say the same thing for the second seven. He had the wife he wanted, but he had to continue working. He had to put in the long hours at work, but he also had to work on his marriage. It wasn’t perfect. Chapter 30 starts off with an argument they had.

Marriage will have arguments, misunderstandings and miscommunications because it involves two humans. It won’t and can’t be perfect. But when two people love each other and are committed to working for the other one and the relationship, then it works. Like I said in the beginning, it’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do, but the rewards for the hard work are worth it. To quote I Corinthians 13:5, “It (love) does not demand its own way. It is not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged.” Love is not selfish and that takes a lot of work.

Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized