Monthly Archives: November 2013

I Love Mondays

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Did you ever read the “Garfield” comic strips? He was famous for saying, “I hate Mondays.” That resonated with so many people. Cubicals everywhere had a picture of him with a coffee mug and that expression on it. Now the saying is all over people’s Facebook page on Mondays. It doesn’t resonate with me though. It’s not that I don’t enjoy my weekends, but Mondays to me are a fresh start. The old week is gone, the new week is here and I get new challenges. The meetings will begin shortly after I log in, the todo list will be built and the week will be set up. Now that I think about it, I kind of like Mondays.

Ok, so maybe you don’t enjoy them like I do. To me, it’s all about perspective. The attitude with which you start your day will determine how you act throughout it. Fridays seem to be more enjoyable because your starting attitude is different. There are only 8 hours standing between you and the weekend and so you have this expectancy, this hope that gets you through with a smile on your face. I believe every day should be that way. I believe the attitude I choose each morning is what determines the outcome of my day.

In the month of November, several of my friends post something they’re thankful for each and every day. They often say that November is their favorite month. Coincidence? A heart full of gratitude is one that has a positive outlook. Each morning I try to find something to be thankful for. Some days, I’m just thankful I’m breathing. Other days, there are so many blessings that it’s hard to choose from. No matter what, I’m always thankful that God’s mercy is new every morning. I’m thankful that each day is a blank slate with God. I wake up forgiven for the mistakes I made yesterday because I’ve asked for it and I don’t have to worry that God is going to hold hem against me.

If God doesn’t hold it against me after I’ve asked for forgiveness, then I need to release myself from the guilt as well. Most of the time that my attitude is wrong is because I hold myself in some kind of penance purgatory. It’s as if God’s forgiveness wasn’t enough. It’s as if it was too easy to find new mercy this morning so I have to make sure I have a bad day to make up for my sin. You can’t earn God’s grace that way! He’s already paid the price for what you did yesterday. Once it’s forgiven and He’s forgotten it, you need to release yourself to be free in His mercy.

Don’t hate today because it’s Monday. Love it because He has granted you forgiveness from your past and has new mercy for you today. Don’t hold yourself back from the potential that today holds because of something you’ve been forgiven of. Release yourself to find joy in the new day and be open to see how God can use the mistakes of your yesterdays for His glory. You have the power to wake up today (and tomorrow) and say, “Thank you, God, that your mercies are new every morning. I don’t hate today because of what it stands for. I love it because of what you’ve done for me.” Try it and see if an attitude adjustment doesn’t make Mondays or any other day better.

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November 2013 Awards

This weekend I was nominated for two blog awards. The first one is “The Versatile Blogger Award“. I was nominated by by Lilka Raphael at www.bisforblessed.com. She is a faithful reader of this site and contributes often. She has a couple of sites that she blogs from. The one listed above always has unique ways to bring scriptures to light and gently encourages us to live them out. She also has a site called “God, Autism and Me” that offers faith, hope and courage.

To receive this award, I need to let her know 7 things about myself.

1. I’ve attended the same church since I was born.
2. I have two brothers who also serve The Lord and are involved in ministry.
3. I spent a year living in Egypt in full time ministry.
4. I have been to 40 of the United States.
5. I have visited 10 countries.
6. I’ve been fluent in 4 languages.
7. My greatest success in life would be if my children follow Christ.

The other award I received was “The Liebster Award” from Mike Stephens. He has a blog called “A ‘Mike’ for Christ“. He is also a faithful reader and contributor on this site. He uses his site bring a fresh perspective to the Gospel. He asks pointed questions and invites his readers to think. He is very knowledgeable about Scripture and shares his insights on his blog.

To receive his award, I need to answer 10 questions that he chose.

1. What does writing do for you?

To me, writing is an act of obedience to God. It has become as synonymous with my walk with God as prayer and reading the Word.

2. What writer feeds your soul? Why?

Mark Batterson is who has been feeding my soul lately. The way he writes is both inspirational and challenging. It points clearly to where I have room to grow and then shows me what I need to do next.

3. What is the most fabulous excursion you’ve taken?

To celebrate earning the Gold Medal of Achievement in the boys scouting program at my church, I was given a two week trip from Texas to the Canadian Rockies. I saw Mount Rushmore, the Olympic Park in Calgary, the Calgary Stampede, the Rocky Mountains, the Athabasca Glacier, Grand Teton National Park, Yellow Stone Park and so much more.

4. What post of yours means the most to you? Why?

The posts where I share my hurt, pain and past mean the most to me. In those, I open up the part of my I kept hidden for so many years. I find healing every time I write about them and hope others do too.

5. What about you will be most instrumental in God’s eternal plan for you, whatever that may be?

My ability to confront my past and to openly share it. So many of us run from ours or hide it. When others see that the Church has broken people in it, we will truly become a hospital for the lost.

6. What makes you cry?

My wife will tell you I’m a very sentimental person. I cry at the drop of a hat when my heart is full and when it is heavy.

7. If your writing were discovered a thousand years from now, what would people learn about you, today’s world, and your interests?

They would hopefully learn that I’m a person who didn’t have all the answers, but knew the One who did. They would learn that my goal is to help others lead more meaningful, deeper Christian lives.

8. Talk about meeting your favorite Bible character (not Jesus).

I’d love to meet David and to pick his brain. He was a man of paradoxes. He showed great faith at times and great doubt at others. He was a man after God’s own heart and yet fell so devastatingly. He didn’t care what people thought when it came to worshipping God, but worried what warriors said behind his back. He struggled like many of us, was a prolific writer and knew where his hope was.

9. Describe your writing process for something that moves you deeply.

My writing process is the same each day. I get up an hour early, read the Word, pray while I commute to work, then seek God about what to write as I sit in my car in the parking lot. I usually get the first sentence and then the rest comes as I write. I stop and think about what it sounds like or how I could say it better as I write.

10. Describe your perfect meal and ultimate dessert.

My perfect meal has got to be a medium rare steak, grilled corn on the cobb and some wilted spinach with lemon butter sauce. My ultimate dessert is a blackberry cobbler with Blue a Bell Homemade Vanilla ice cream

Thanks for the awards, guys. I’m humbled. I hope you were able to learn a little bit more about me from this.

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Free From Walls of Hurt

Many of you already know my story. I was blindsided ten years ago when I discovered my ex-wife having an affair. I logged into her email one morning when I was suspicious that something was wrong. What I found were emails between her and her lover. I read intimate details about their get togethers, the lies that they would tell their spouses, where and how they would meet, what they like that the other did in bed and how me and his wife didn’t measure up. Reading all those emails was one of the most painful things I’ve ever done. I kept walking away from the computer screaming out in anger and in pain. I pulled my hair to try to get the pain out of my body and onto my body.

When I offered reconciliation, forgiveness and counseling that evening, she turned me down. I only thought I had been in pain. When she replied, “What if I don’t want to?”, my heart broke even more. When she said, “I’m leaving”, I snapped. In that moment, I felt the worst pain and hurt I have ever felt in my life. It was as if someone stabbed me with a knife in the chest and pulled it straight down. I fell to my knees and began to sob. I lost all control. As she quickly packed her things, I began screaming and turning over ever picture of us in the house. I began to lash out in anger and in pain.

After that night, I couldn’t sleep for a long time. Every time I closed my eyes I would see the words of the emails and imagine them. The pain and fury would come rushing back. I quickly built up walls to shield myself from those thoughts and from ever being hurt like that again. I promised myself I would never put myself in that position again. I would never fully open up to anyone and share my innermost being where I would risk that kind of pain again. As things continued to go wrong in my life over the next six months, I built the wall brick by brick, thought by thought, promise by promise.

It wasn’t until I gave up on September 25, 2003, that I quit building the wall. Even though I had quit building it, I left it up to guard myself. I didn’t let anyone past it, not even God. I was afraid of being vulnerable. I was afraid of the pain. God spoke to me and then confirmed it through another person later. He wanted inside that wall. He wanted to heal me so I could have meaningful relationships. He wanted to bring restoration so I could build bridges with those bricks from my wall. He wanted to replace the scar tissue with tender flesh. It all came down to my choice. I had to choose to let Him come in and clean up the mess behind my wall.

Whatever has caused you to build walls in your life, God wants to bring healing. Whatever relationships have caused you to push people away, God wants to bring restoration to you. The walls you’ve built are only a facade. They don’t let you experience life, they just let you observe it. God wants to free you from your past hurt and to break down those walls in your life so you can truly live. It won’t happen over night so relax. Simply invite Him inside those walls and have the courage to ask Him to free you from them. Others need you back in their lives. Even more need to hear your story so they can find freedom from their pain.

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