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Stop Going In Circles

I’ve been in leadership long enough to know you can’t expect different results by doing the same thing. I’ve coached and counseled people telling them that what they are experiencing today is a result of the processes they have in their life or organization. There are times when I point out a behavior or process that they need to change, that people willingly do it. Others will defend their position or attack me because that position is something they’re so dug in on that they won’t change. I try to explain if they want to change results, they have to change behaviors. You can’t simply change the direction by going in circles. At some point you have to break the cycle, break the pattern and break the behavior.

In Deuteronomy 2, the Israelites had been wandering in the wilderness for forty years. They had their own pattern that kept them there for so long. They would feel inconvenienced on the way to the Promised Land, then they would complain, then they would talk about how their life was better in Egypt, God would discipline them and provide, and then they would repeat it. Their sin and struggle had kept them there wandering until all those who had refused to go to the Promised Land had died. Now a new generation had grown up and God was preparing them to go take the land. In verse 3 God says, “You have circled this mountain long enough; turn northward” (AMP). For forty years, nothing had changed until they changed direction.

When we follow where God leads and change what He’s convicting us of, we don’t just change direction. We change destination. When we quit circling the things that are important to us and start doing what’s important to Him, we change our destiny. We all have mountains we’ve been circling that are keeping us from the Promised Land that God wants to lead us to. We just have to quit excusing our behavior, repeating what has failed and respond to what God has asked us to do. Your mountain won’t move until you change direction and turn north. Don’t just be a hearer of God’s Word. Be a doer. Today is your Deuteronomy 2:3 moment. Stop circling. Break the pattern. Follow where God leads. It won’t be easy, but it’s better than going in circles.

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Seeking The Reward

Our brains are wired to seek rewards. Seeking and obtaining these rewards create habits in our lives. When you wake up, if you have the habit of hitting the snooze button, your brain has been conditioned to seek the reward of nine more minutes of sleep. If you love working out, your brain loves the endorphins that are released and how your body will look. Scientists have observed the brain during these activities and see what they’ve nicknamed the pleasure center of the brain light up when it gets the reward. It gets addicted to that feeling which makes habits hard to break. If you want to change a habit, don’t just take away the reward, create a reward for the new habit.

Paul, who wrote most of the New Testament, endured some pretty harsh things. He was beaten several times within an inch of his life. He was sent to prison, rejected, stoned, attacked, shipwrecked and more for his faith. How did he keep going? He found a way to let his brain know that there was a reward in Heaven coming. In Philippians 3:10-11 he explained his reward by writing, “And this, so that I may know Him [experientially, becoming more thoroughly acquainted with Him, understanding the remarkable wonders of His Person more completely] and [in that same way experience] the power of His resurrection [which overflows and is active in believers], and [that I may share] the fellowship of His sufferings, by being continually conformed [inwardly into His likeness even] to His death [dying as He did]; so that I may attain to the resurrection [that will raise me] from the dead” (AMP). He always looked for the reward in becoming more like Christ and being with Him one day.

Jesus set out a reward for us too. In Matthew 6:33, Jesus said, “But first and most importantly seek (aim at, strive after) His kingdom and His righteousness [His way of doing and being right—the attitude and character of God], and all these things will be given to you also.” If you look at what you’ve been seeking after instead of God’s kingdom, you will see the reward your brain is after. Jesus is offering us a greater reward by seeking Him first. Like Paul, we need to retire our brains, by allowing our minds to be transformed (Romans 12:2). When we put His needs ahead of our own, He rewards us with becoming more like Him and by taking care of all these things that cause us to worry.

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