I once heard someone say, “Everyone is a blessing. Some when they come into your life and others when they leave.” I also saw a meme that said, “I love my coworkers. Some I love to be around and some I love to avoid.” Right now you probably have some people in mind who you’d like to avoid and others whom you wish would be a blessing and exit your life. It’s only human to have conflict with some people. You’re not evil for having those thoughts.
In Acts 15:37-41, we read how the great apostle Paul and his ministry partner Barnabas had a heated argument and disagreement. It says they parted ways, the believers prayed blessings on both of them and that every place they went, they left the church stronger and more encouraged than before. This split came after the Holy Spirit had said in Acts 13:2 to set apart Paul and Barnabas to do the work of the ministry together. God put them together for a season and then blessed their parting.
Here’s the deal. Ephesians 5:20 says, “Always give thanks to Father God for every person he brings into your life in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” (TPT). God has a reason for each person He brings into your life, whether you like them or not. Instead of praying for them to leave your life, try thanking God for them and asking Him to accomplish in your life what He needs to through that relationship. It’s no accident you’re together for this season. A time of departure may be on the horizon, but if God is going to bless both of you after, you’ve got to learn to be thankful for them first.
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Have you ever been in a dead end relationship? The kind where you know it’s going no where, but don’t know what to do. You can choose to keep going, but sooner or later, you know you’re going to find an abrupt halt because you’re getting nothing out of the relationship. All it does is take from you emotionally and drains you physically until you feel trapped in it. You feel like you can’t breathe the longer it goes on because it’s strangling you. That’s what continuing in a life of sin is like.
It might be fun for a while, but ultimately, it’s a dead end. Paul described it this way in Romans 6:20-22, “As long as you did what you felt like doing, ignoring God, you didn’t have to bother with right thinking or right living, or right anything for that matter. But do you call that a free life? What did you get out of it? Nothing you’re proud of now. Where did it get you? A dead end” (MSG). The longer you live opposed to God’s way, the less fulfilled you become. You begin to feel trapped much like a dead end relationship.
The way out of a dead end relationship is to break off all ties. The same thing is true for ending your relationship with a life that is opposed to God’s way. You have to cut off the ties that would lead you back to that life. You have to embrace the freedom that God gives. The funny thing is that living for God is painted as a list of don’t’s that will keep you from really living. It’s the opposite that’s true. You will never know what true freedom is until you surrender your will to God’s and give up the sin you’ve been holding on to.
Living the way you want ends in spiritual death, but living the way God wants you to live ends up with spiritual life. Romans 6:23 says, “Work hard for sin your whole life and your pension is death. But God’s gift is real life, eternal life, delivered by Jesus, our Master.” If you’re looking to have your life healed and put back together, break ties with sin, and submit to God. Live for Him and you’ll find the relationship you’ve been looking for that has no end.